We all know that saying “grow through, what you go through.”
How many of you know deep down you must walk away from something or someone that is no longer serving you? How many of you stay because your too comfortable to walk away or simply you’re afraid of the change and the unknown? What if I tell you everything you ever dreamt of is right over that line of fear? Right now, I am currently in a state of what is my next move? How do I get to where I want to be? Where I am right now is where a lot of people give up and remain average. We were not created to remain average. I don’t know about you, but I crave and desire more in life. What I am currently learning about myself is that fear needs to be removed from my mind and vocabulary.
I have experienced a lot of growth in areas of my life and there are a lot of areas where I am still learning and growing; this process never stops. The higher you get in life the more you need to learn and grow. So many people are terrified of change, but really open your mind and ask yourself “how am I afraid of something I’ve never experienced or dealt with before?” Truly, how do you know what is waiting on the other side if you’ve never been there before? How can you really be afraid of the unknown?
Let’s get personal really quick… Many of you know I was in a relationship for 7 years and we broke up about a year and a half ago. I was TERRIFIED to leave, but I knew deep down it was what I wanted/needed. I stayed which in return, caused a lot of pain and confusion in the relationship until it was time to finally walk away. That pain was probably the worst pain I ever felt. I was afraid to be alone. I had no idea what my next moves were or where I would end up. Now that I have grown through that experience, I can say that worrying about the unknown is literally a waste of time. My favorite saying is “be the warrior, not the worrier!”
I legit spent so much valuable time worrying about things that did not even occur or mattered. What I learned from that experience is that we must take each experience the good and the bad and grow with it.
So you ask “why is growth important?’ it is important because if you do not get out of that “comfort zone” whether it be a dead-end job, relationship, the streets or whatever it is that you know no longer serves you, you will never grow or reach your full potential. Yes, growth is extremely uncomfortable, messy and full of feelings you were not expecting, but blossoms it is necessary. No one ever really tells you how painful growth is until you do something FOR YOURSELF to experience exactly what I am telling you. Growth is not easy at all. You fall, you rise, you slip, you slide, but no matter what if you’re committed to yourself you get the f back up. The greatest thing about failing is you failed at something, but you can always get up and try again. Now that you know why you failed and where you failed you can use that to your advantage and rebuild/restructure with the knowledge you’ve gained.
Growth is also important because you become more mature, successful and you find happiness through it all. I’ve learned that growth is the foundation of yourself. During a growth spurt, you learn how to take control of your emotions which is the most lethal weapon. If you can control your emotions that is when you become dangerous in a healthy way. You can move properly and execute anything that life gives you. Like one of my favorite rappers, Ace Hood said, “got control of my demons and I’ve been King ever since.” Growth is a part of self-improvement and self-development. You must be willing to grow through everything you experience to improve yourself and develop yourself to that higher level of self-being.
I am going to leave you all with this last saying “the day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit.” When you’re ready to take that “growth step” please know you’ve planted a seed. The seed(you) needs soil, sun, water, and love. As you know my blog name is Roses and Champagne. Picture yourself as a rose. You are being planted into the ground. You are going to need that sun, that rain and love to grow. Be patient with yourself, be kind to yourself, but most importantly love yourself for YOU. The mistakes you’ve made along the way thus far; it’s shaping you. Remember a rose has truth and thorns, your thorns are there to show the warrior inside of you and the protection of yourself.
As always, keep blossoming with me