If your reading this post it is because you were drawn to the title.
I was once told “What is the point of being in a relationship without trust. It is like sitting in a car without gas. You can be in the relationship/car, but the relationship/car isn’t going to go anywhere.”
It is very easy to trust someone, once that trust is broken, trust is very hard to repair. You can work at it, but you will continue to second guess everything. Now, here is what’s to think about… Are you having trust issues with a lover, a friend, a family member, a co-worker, or yourself? What has this person done to lose your trust? I have lost trust with lovers, friends, family members, co-workers, and myself.
How do you trust someone you care about? Will you ever forgive them? Will you ever forget? Will they do it again?
The way I have learned to re-trust someone is by letting go, accepting, and forgiving. When you truly, completely let go you will feel free. I wish there was a better way to describe it to you. Think about being squeezed into a tight box with no light.When you finally decide to let go of what happened, you break out of the box. When I say break out of the box I mean physically kicking, screaming, crying, getting angry, being confused… ALL of those emotions and feelings were broken out with you in that box. THEN THERE WAS LIGHT, FRESH AIR, and FREEDOM. Let go to feel lighter. You will no longer feel like you’re stuck on something. You will no longer feel like something is pulling you back and weighing you down.
Accept what happened and truly understand you are unable to go back and change it.
Forgive the person! Not for them, but for you. Why? If you do not forgive that person it’s not affecting them. You are only affecting you; your mind, body, and soul. Why damage yourself more than that person has damaged you? You are not going to forget what was done, but that is okay because that is what makes you STRONG.
Stop dwelling. It only screws with you more. I am not saying you have to trust the person again. I still have walls up with people, but I am not going to hold on to what they have done because that would only hold me back. Trust in yourself and your journey.